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Where does one acquire "Radicalness"?

I'm reminded this morning of some painful experiences that I went through beginning back in 2016. In late 2016 I took a job with a company full of promises and short on honor.  Unfortunately I did not know how to discern this reality so I plunged head-first into delivering on the promises I made only to be given the "we just don't think we're compatible" speech.

From there I helped start a company with a cold-blooded narcissist, and because I lacked the emotional intelligence I failed to protect myself and fell prey to the CEO and his self appointed narcissist supply. That situation continues to haunt because I am a shareholder and have some unfortunate connections that prevent me from completely severing from the ugly.

There's more... Much more, but let's focus on my work environments.  

I turns out that there are folks in this world who's first (and probably only) thought is for themselves. This was a hard lesson for me. One that has radically changed my view of people and one that has taught me to be much more focused on protecting myself in all relationships.  

This is a radical change for me and it has forced me to seriously question many things in my life.  Hopefully it is also the catalyst that I needed to push me beyond.


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